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Life Does Come With An Undo Button

Life's Undo Button | The Frontier FemiKnowlogistHave you been looking for life’s undo button?

Have you ever tried to look yourself in the mirror and repeat those “positive affirmations”? As you attempt to maintain eye contact you mouth the words, “I am a worthy person and I fully approve of who I am,” all the while your brain screams, “NO! I’m not and I don’t!”

I understand that it can be a difficult feat to look yourself in the eye and admit that you’re not perfect, and be okay with that. Been there, done that. I understand that the standards you grew up with where unrealistically high and the level of perfection demanded where unachievable. I helped set those standards. The constant thought of not being or doing enough was always there. Today, not only do you accuse yourself, but your mother, your sisters, and your daughters for their shortcomings or perceived failings as you attempt to live up to those nagging tapes that fill you with shame. I’m sorry.

As a result you’ve created a life filled with chronic patterns of self-defeating behavior. And what you really want now is the “know-how” to stop and take responsibility for your life. You need to discover your unique FemiKnowlogy that hits that undo button, erases those old tapes and replaces them with the ones that affirm the beautiful creature who is you.

Fortunately you have been given the ability to access and reconnect to your deepest inner self – that part of you that is good enough already – and reestablish your life upon its foundation, and redefine your negative past in its purifying light.

The single greatest gift you have is the possibility of return – to start anew and wash away the past. You can rise above the limitations imposed by time. It is possible to affect your life retroactively. You can click life’s undo button by returning to the root-source of your soul and begin to make choices that bring you into alignment with it.

You have made some mistakes, and you may not be where you want to be, but that has nothing to do with your future.-Zig Ziglar

What are you waiting for? Today is the perfect time to birth a new you. Take some time to sit with yourself and discover who that gal in the mirror truly is. It may not feel comfortable at first. Accepting past choices and their outcomes can be painful at first. However, as you begin to challenge those negative thoughts the feelings will change. Then, before you know it you will find yourself making different choices. On a regular basis you will experience more positive outcomes. And then…viola…one day you realize you are a new woman! One who is happy with the reflection she sees in the mirror and the life she has created.

Yes, life does come with an undo button! And it is fully within your power to hit it as many times as you need.

What if you hit life’s undo button on your relationships? Can you begin to have different thoughts about the other women in your life? Can you let go of your expectations of perfection for yourself? For them? Can you imagine what your life might look like when you do just that?

April 1st – You’re Nobody’s Fool

A woman has no character, no soul, no life, apart from her thoughts and deeds.

Change Your Thinking - Change Your LifeSages, spiritualists and transformative  coaches teach that our thought life is foundational to personal development. Getting our “mind right” is essential to improving our character. Overcoming painful memories begins with developing new ways of thinking about past experiences.

EACH woman is responsible for the thoughts which she thinks and the acts which she does, for her state of mind, and the life which she lives. No power, no event, no circumstance, can compel a woman to evil and unhappiness. She herself is her own compeller. She thinks and acts by her own volition. No being, however wise and great not even the Supreme can make her good and happy. She herself must choose the good, and thereby find the happy.

This life of triumph is not for those who are satisfied with any lower conditions ; it is for those who thirst for it and are willing to achieve it; who are as eager for righteousness as the miser is for gold. It is always at hand, and is offered to all, and blessed are they who accept and embrace it ; they will enter the world of Truth ; they will find the Perfect Peace.

There is a larger, higher, nobler, diviner life than that of sinning and suffering.

 adapted from a book of meditations for Every Day in the Year by James Allen

Thoughts form Feelings
Feelings form Actions
Actions form Habits
Habits form Character

Proverbs reminds us, “More than all that you guard, guard your mind, for it is the source of life.”

As you begin this journey of discovering your unique FemiKnowlogy be assured that you’re nobody’s fool. Although there may have been times in your life – perhaps even now – when you felt circumstances were out of your control, remember that you alone have the power over your thoughts and thereby, your life and your destiny. The very process of personal growth and development is about challenging your thoughts – yes, even your core beliefs.

I understand that you have met with deeply painful experiences. How you choose to think about these experiences has already begun to shape your core beliefs and form your character. As you discover to the principles of FemiKnowlogy you will be challenged to open your mind to new ways of thinking, to release old thought processes and embrace the possibility of something before unimagined. I know you can do it. And I will be here with you each step of the way.

Are you open to the process of changing your thoughts? What does this look like to you?